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Get the Love You Want or Get Out of a Bad Relationship |
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Have you ever found yourself bouncing in and out of the same "relationship" with the same man? He leaves, he comes back, things are good, then they blow up again? Or sometimes there's no blow up at all, he just drifts away? And there you are, stunned and missing him. If you've found yourself like this, wondering to yourself and your friends, almost desperately, again and again over the same man, "What could have happened?" you are in good company. So many of us feel SO CLOSE to the relationship of our dreams, with our dream man, and then it just DOESN'T WORK. It feels like we HAD it, and then it slipped through our fingers. We have these wonderful weeks, even months where the old fire comes back, and we're getting along again like the soulmates we just know we are. We start thinking about the future with him again. And then when it falls apart again, or he turns away for even a minute, all we can think about is how to get him to SEE that we're perfect for each other and we should be together forever. We've all done this, and it feels pretty awful. It's almost like it eats up our lives. We look back, and all we can see is this ONE man, with a few dates with other men in between. It's as though the HOPE of him ran our lives all that time. I remember the year-and-a-half I spent with the gorgeous man who was still close with his ex-wife. I remember him doing things for her that he wasn't doing for me, and me IGNORING IT. I remember one day he told me an old "friend" was visiting soon from another state, and that he wouldn't be seeing me for 2 weeks. I didn't quite "get" what he was saying, or I didn't want to see it. It wasn't rocket science to figure out that the "friend" was sleeping with him during our two weeks off - and in a weird way it didn't make me love him any less or want to be with him any less. But when I finally found out that he'd been taking her around to meet OUR FRIENDS, out to eat with them and to their houses for parties, I was devastated. Being devastated, though, STILL didn't change my feelings for him. Instead, I felt humiliated. And I blamed myself, and excused him. I'm embarrassed even now to be telling you this story, but I want you to know how I lifted my own self-esteem and learned to make and keep Boundaries for myself, because I know it will help you. It took me a very long time to find my anger, a very long time to see clearly. A very long time to start to LOVE MYSELF enough to not put myself into a situation where I was being treated with so little care. I didn't find my anger and self-esteem in time to rescue myself in that "relationship." I kept on seeing him, until finally, he met another woman and dumped me. And you DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THAT! I will help you take better care for yourself so you can avoid that trap and get the love and relationship you want, just like I eventually did. |
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