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Okay - is it shocking to you, this idea of
never waiting for a man? Does it seem impossible? Does it seem hard to figure out? When you're first trying anything, it feels a bit strange. Changing anything about the way you think or speak will feel strange at first. But, it's not hard. And once you try it, you'll feel so much stronger and you'll get such stunning results with the man you want, it'll feel easier than anything you've ever done before. So, if you aren't waiting... HOW DO YOU STAY WITH THE RELATIONSHIP IN CASE IT ACTUALLY DOES GO SOMEWHERE? There's a way to do it.. There's a way to let a man know you're looking for a commitment and still give him time to commit, without waiting. Sounds impossible, doesn't it? But it's not. Because waiting isn't about time, it's about what you DO with that time. "Waiting" is putting your life on hold. But, letting a man take as much time as he wants to make a decision about what he wants in the relationship doesn't have to be about putting your life on hold! SO, HOW DO YOU WAIT WITHOUT WAITING? How do you handle it when a man really does need more "time"? First - here are some things to NOT do: Don't PRETEND you're busy, unavailable or that you don't care. Pretending will work completely the OPPOSITE of how you want it to work. Instead, you have to BE busy and unavailable. And you have to CARE. And the person you have to care about most is YOU. This means, you care how you live your life. You care if you have fun or not. You care if dates get broken, if he doesn't get to you in time for a weekend date, or takes you for granted. And you care that if you open your heart to him, he treats it very, very well. To do this, use my Tools: Date other men, or at least Date Yourself. Touch Objects. Make up some rules and boundaries for yourself, and learn to speak to him from your heart. Practice saying to yourself what it is you want and don't want: For instance, that you don't want to be a "girlfriend" much longer, that because you desire to be married, you'd appreciate knowing what he sees ahead for you, and that you don't want to close down all your options while he's taking all the time he needs. Basically, that you will never put your life on hold for any man, and that you are not a woman who "Waits." You are a woman who "Lives." If you'd like to learn, fast, exactly how to do this - how to find your inner strength and then talk to your man in a way that KEEPS your self- confidence and makes HIM feel more and more deeply attracted to you - just LISTENING to me walk you through it in different situations on my new "Reconnect Your Relationship" CD program will help you tremendously. Here's a success story: "Rori, I have been dating my current boyfriend for many years now, and last year we had a terrible breakup. We have since tried to work things out... and after being frustrated a few weeks into trying it again (seemed like the same problems reared their ugly heads again!) I downloaded your book. I think I remember reading on your website to give it 10 weeks, so I set that deadline for myself to be patient and try it out. Since then, things have gone along so wonderfully! We have recommitted ourselves to each other. Our conversations are much more simple and direct and we actually address the real issue at hand. (After reading your book, I realized I NEVER EVER would address the actual issue). He has said to me that since a few weeks ago, I seem to have myself so much more together, and that I seem like I respect myself so much more. Getting out of HIS head and focusing on how I actually feel has done amazing things for me and for our relationship. This is by far the most adult relationship we have had in the many years that we have been together. Being present and in the moment, as well as the Leanback tool and the Overfunctioning chapter have helped me see the ways I needed to change how I was acting to allow him the room to come to me. Otherwise I would be rowing the boat forever, and that was not something I wanted to do! I have so much faith now in myself and in "us"... it's amazing to know that after dating someone for so long, the relationship can still grow and change so much! And it's truly empowering to know that you can change yourself for the better in a few simple and easy steps. Thank you so much for all of your words of guidance, Pamela ***If Pamela can make such a dramatic change in just a short time - so dramatic that her man actually NOTICED it - so can you! Let me know how "The Third Way," and not "waiting" around for a man works for you. |
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