By Rori Raye
How do you make a man feel like the luckiest guy alive - because he’s finally met YOU?
How do you get him to SEE what a “great catch” you are?
How do you make a guy like you so much that he can’t imagine being with any other woman?
Let’s say you’ve finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him. You should make an effort to show him you’re a real “find,” right?
You should dazzle him with your wit, your kindness, your thoughtfulness… your cooking!
You should check in when he’s having a bad day. Be available when he calls. Be amazing in bed.
You should make him like you… right?
The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn’t involve any effort at all. In fact, it’s all about simply “being” - not "doing."
It’s about doing NOTHING.
When we meet a great guy, we women often try to do whatever we can to make him see what a great catch we are.
We’ll go out of our way to do things for a man, plan outings together, and sometimes even say yes to things he wants that go against what we want.
But this just makes us LESS attractive to a man, not more.
Because here’s the truth: you can’t convince a man to fall in love. But you can lead him there by connecting to his heart.
One of the most powerful ways to do this is to let yourself be guided by your "feminine energy" rather than your masculine.
Feminine energy is about being instead of doing. When you focus on simply being in the moment and enjoying a man’s company and attention, you automatically shift your vibe so that he can step into the masculine, doer role.
To do that, you must first be open to receiving…
Inspiring a man to see you as the one woman he wants to be with forever is all about you being able to receive love.
Men fall in love when they give to you, not because of how much you give them or do for them.
When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.
Is that how you want your dream man to see you? I didn’t think so.
When you’re open to receiving from a man, you’re sending a message that you value yourself - you believe you’re worthy of his time, attention, gestures, and ultimately his love.
So resist the temptation to prove your worth by giving, and instead create the space for him to give to you.
Men are competitive creatures who value what they have to work hard to get. If he gets a sense that you’re completely devoted to him with very little investment on his part, he’ll question your value.
This means you do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him.
Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship.
At the same time, you aren’t prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. Right in case you haven’t met him yet!
When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you’re a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize.
This elevates your “degree of difficulty” so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself… or risk another guy beating him to it.
The most important thing to remember when you’re dating a man and want him to realize how wonderful you are is to put your happiness first.
If you love taking a dance class every Thursday night, don’t give it up just because he’s in the picture and you don’t want him to think you’re not interested.
Letting him know you have a life before him actually makes him more attracted to you - not just because you’re not about to drop everything for him, but because people who are passionate about their interests are interesting people!
So, tell him, “It would feel so great to see you Thursday, but I have my dance class that night, and I love it. I’m free Tuesday or Friday.”
Then ask him what he thinks.
It might feel a little scary to do this with a guy you really like, but the right guy will gladly re-arrange his plans to see you.
Why? Because you’ve just proven you’re a great catch he has to woo and win.
The biggest key to a man waking up to the fact that you’re “the one for him” - that you fulfill all his needs just by BEING YOU - is your ability to connect with a man through his heart.
And the key to connecting with a man’s heart is operating day-to-day, moment-by-moment from YOUR heart.
(That’s actually why my Modern Siren online video program changes so many women’s lives so quickly - it gets you into your heart and expressing FROM your heart through incredible Tools that work through your body and your imagination.)
When you practice BEING YOU, with your open heart, it gets so embedded in your day-to-day personal style, it practically works automatically. You don’t have to understand or do ANYTHING - you just “do” the Tools - and everything shifts.
A man is spellbound by a woman who doesn’t try to control him - yet who is confident and in control of herself.
In my FREE Feminine Energy Newsletter, I share many other tools and practices to help you refocus on yourself, stay open and allow a man to take the lead.
He’ll be so magnetically drawn to you by how confident and open you are, and your heart connection, that he won’t even see other women anymore. You’ll be the ONE.
And you’ll be able to relax and enjoy his love and affection, instead of worrying about how he feels and if he likes you as much as you like him.
I’ve got so many more tips, ‘secrets’ and practices on how to focus on YOU instead of him in my FREE Feminine Energy Newsletter.
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Men are so much easier than we’ve been taught to think they are - and YOU are EXACTLY what a man needs!
Try the ideas in this letter and be sure to let me know how they work for you…